First Steps · 02

Where am I now?

Before imagining where you would like to be, take stock of what you love or like about life now, what you would like to change and what no longer feels right.

Mark's guidance

“My time as a navigator taught me that if you are not sure of your destination, you will never reach it. When you know where you are, you can plot a course towards your dream life.”

Be kind to yourself, but be honest too. A useful question is: if my life ended tomorrow, would I feel satisfied with myself and the life I lived?

Ask the key questions.

Are you happy with your home life?

Are you happy with your relationship or relationship status?

Are you happy with your work or career?

Are you happy with where and how you live?

Are you happy with your relationships with family and friends?

Do you have the social life you want?

How do you feel about your confidence and inner peace?

How do you feel about your health, fitness and habits?

Are there passions or interests you want to develop?

Are you taking too much or too little responsibility for your life?

Now make three lists.

Less / More

Less stress, distance or conflict. More time, connection, money, travel or family life.

Strengths

Communication, imagination, empathy, practical ability, patience or courage.

Weaknesses

Timekeeping, avoidance, anger, administration, saying sorry or asking for help.

The purpose is not to judge yourself. It is to replace a vague feeling of dissatisfaction with an honest starting position.